Quick Answer: Practice brief separations starting at 30 seconds — close a door between you and your dog, wait, return calmly, and reward quiet behavior. Build duration by 30-second increments over days and weeks. Give a frozen lick mat before every departure — even brief ones. Consistency of the lick mat at every separation builds the positive association with alone time faster than any other method.
The Graduated Absence Protocol
- Give the frozen lick mat
- Close a door between you and your dog (same house)
- Return before the lick mat is finished — 30 seconds to start
- Enter calmly — no big reunion drama
- Increase by 30-second increments every 2-3 days
- Begin leaving the house only after 10-15 minute indoor separations are solid
What Not To Do
- Don't make departures a big ceremony — calm and matter-of-fact
- Don't return while your dog is vocally distressed — this rewards the distress
- Don't increase too fast — setbacks require starting lower again
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